At the End of Life, a Way to Go Gentle by Susan Gubar

Living with Cancer The New York Times Well April 13, 2017 While confronting the prospect of death, people like me — grappling with a diagnosis of advanced cancer — often consider what sort of care they want and how to say goodbye. Given the delicate negotiations in which the dying […]

‘Everyday is Special, Make the Most of It’: Cancer Victim, 12, Leaves Secret Note to Family on Back of Mirror by Brogan Driscoll

The Huffington Post UK May 2014 A 12-year-old girl, who died from cancer last month, left a secret note to her family before on the back of her mirror before her death. Athena Orchard’s “heartbreaking” message was found by her father, Dean, a few days after his daughter passed away […]

The Metta Institute

The Metta Institute was established to provide education on spirituality in dying. Inspired by the Buddhist tradition, we encourage the integration of the spiritual dimensions of living, dying and transformation through professional training, educational programs and materials. Our Institute was formed in 2004 as an outgrowth of the Zen Hospice Project […]

Writing Through It by Marci A. Landsmann

Cancer Today 8/05/2013 In a new book and on her New York Times blog, author Susan Gubar chronicles her experiences living with metastatic cancer. For Susan Gubar, writing has always given context to reality. So it should come as little surprise that when Gubar, an award-winning distinguished professor emerita of […]

Cancer Patients and Doctors Struggle to Predict Outcomes

NPR February 10, 2015   When a doctor tells a patient that she has cancer and has just a year left to live, that patient often hears very little afterward. It’s as though the physician said “cancer” and then “blah, blah, blah.” Anxiety makes it difficult to remember details – […]

Dealing with a Parent’s Terminal Illness

Source: American Cancer Society July, 2012   For most people, dealing with a parent’s terminal illness is a painful and personal topic, and the information shared here may be hard to read at times. You might want to set aside a time when you can read it without interruption. A […]

The Gift of Grace by Susan Gubar

New York Times Living With Cancer November 24, 2016 An email I received from a reader some time ago has begun to haunt me. The reader’s sister was dying of cancer. How, she asked me, would I respond to the word “grace” in the context of a cancer death? My correspondent […]

Living With Cancer: Deciding About Dying by Susan Gubar

 The New York Times Well October 22, 2015   Fifty-five years ago, when I was 15, my mother made me promise that I would not commit suicide. I intend to keep that promise if and when I ask a doctor for passive assistance — ending life-sustaining support — or for […]